The patriarchal arrangement implies an extreme exception for Mrs Gould to be
at the head of the table. The allegorical explanation is that she represents
something like their god: a reactionary, anti-progress idealism that wants to
preserve nature and the simplicity of life, and looks back fondly to "the
olden time"
of ecclesiastical courts.
The "patriarchal state" refers also, of course, to the government
of the family, for which the orphaned, childless Emily longs.